Of course, I wondered who would want to date me.”Dating is complicated. The two together don’t exactly make for easy-breezy, get-to-know- one-another-over-dinner-and-drinks conversation.
If cancer has changed your appearance, it’s normal to be uncomfortable or self-conscious about it. That way you can become more relaxed in new social situations, with less pressure.
When the time comes to share more intimate details, “the cancer bomb,” as Jones calls it, may scare off a few suitors.
“But if somebody is going to run, you’re better off knowing about it before you invest a lot of time in that person,” Jones says.
'" says Dena T., a 44-year-old freelance writer from Austin, TX who went through a bilateral mastectomy and chemotherapy after being diagnosed with breast cancer in September of 2006.
"It's hard enough to meet quality people who are interested in you and that you can connect with… " Janet S., a 60-year-old educator from Boston who went through two lumpectomies, chemo and radiation for her breast cancer in 1998, was similarly ambivalent about dating after her diagnosis.