It’s February and that means that love is in the air.
Unfortunately, so are pressing deadlines, over-due literature searches, and mid-terms to mark.
Every Saturday, I write out all of our obligations for the week, and try to tweak our schedules so we have time together.
my list of the top (or bottom, depending on how you look at it) five worst pieces of advice you hear in grad school. Really, the list could be endless—there’s an unfortunate number of people who are spouting terrible things on this subject, all the time.
Sadly, depression is common in grad school—or at least it’s common enough to be a fairly large concern. It can be a socially isolating experience, made worse by the financial strain of low pay, loan payments looming in the future, and the fear of never getting a tenure-track job.
Within academe, there’s a huge stigma around mental health issues such as depression, schizophrenia, or bipolar disorder.
She had reason to be cynical: grad school means a convoluted class schedule, loads of coursework, very little money, and a whole new social circle of other grad students–and none of those things are awesome for an existing relationship.
You should ask not to be assigned to TA courses which your significant other is taking (and he or she should do likewise), as this would represent a possible conflict of interest.Unfortunately, the stigma around mental illness means that many students don’t seek help. Seriously, when I first heard someone say that, I thought it was a joke. One guy said it was because there were a lot more women than men in his program. And a third fellow said it was because people work on similar projects and automatically have common interests.And because many advisers think that stress, anxiety, and feeling overwhelmed (all potential signs of something more serious) are a normal part of grad school, they are often reluctant to suggest students seek help. It might be a joke, but it’s one that reveals certain heteronormative gender expectations. I simply did not hear this piece of advice directed at me as a woman.But going for an MFA is about more than poverty and being swamped with work (although at their busiest times, grad students might not agree! At its best, graduate school means having the support to delve into your passions—and when my boyfriend was able to delve into his academic passions, that brought a new sparkle to our relationship as well.For one thing, watching your partner follow their dreams can make you resentful—or it can make you focus more on your own ambitions. “When I got my acceptance letter, my boyfriend got inspired to make new strides in his career.