It’s hard to be judgmental when you can’t help but see a situation from every angle. Your lady-lawyer girlfriend will be more likely than your average woman to view the situation logically and understand the “mitigating factors” (stuff that makes your “crime” less bad – you had a really busy week at work, you had a fight with your best friend the night before, etc.) And since many lady lawyers work long hours, they often cut their boyfriends and husbands slack for missing “personal deadlines.” This isn’t to say that a lot of us aren’t very romantic, but as a lawyer, you can’t help but develop a logical streak. However, lady lawyers who work long hours at demanding jobs tend to be less forgiving when their boyfriends are casual about time or scheduling. Some lady lawyers will put on a “fun” act in the early stages of dating.
While it’s always good to put your best foot forward when you first meet someone, it’s never good to be fake, and attempts to feign “fun” can come across in a strange way.
If you’re on a date with a lady lawyer, and she argues with you about a minor point (you: “I’ll have Absolut vodka;” her: “Do you really prefer that to Grey Goose?
”) it’s not necessarily because she’s being bossy or because she actually wants you to switch to Grey Goose. And she may actually find it charming if you (unlike her opposing counsel) just say, “Yes, I do” and order the Absolut rather than debating the merits of Absolut versus Grey Goose with her. The flip side of our tendency to argue and criticize is our ability to be sensitive and empathic.
Yes, we like to argue, but a lot of us like peace at home after a long day of arguing at the office.
A lot of lady lawyers report little arguing at home because they’re just so tired after a day spent debating (and possibly raising voices) with opposing counsel, judges, and clients. This can be true even of lady lawyers who are dating or married to male lawyers! Yes, we like to argue, but with our dates and boyfriends, it’s in a friendly way, not a confrontational way.
Is this thought-provoking, well-crafted advice about dating lawyers? But e Harmony didn’t get where it is by acting as an honest broker of love.
The whole conceit of e Harmony is some black-box personality test that tells a person what they really want even if they don’t realize it themselves.
turning documents while a team of lawyers argue over comma placement, well, you’re in luck!Let’s address some of e Harmony’s advice: I found a typo already.Replace “smarter” with “like an a**hole.” Lest we forget, lawyers are the most despised profession in America. Unless this hypothetical group of non-lawyers just happen to be discussing document review, this boyfriend’s opinion is pretty useless. But this point isn’t about smarts, it’s all about appealing to the contemptible person who wants to rub into friends that he or she has a “better” life partner than they do.After divorce, part of the healing process for many people is finding themselves through the eyes of a new relationship.Whether you are looking for love, or just companionship, it can be difficult to develop relationships during this transitional stage in your life.