As a result, my so-called casual relationships go on a lot longer than most people’s so-called committed ones.
I date younger men off and on over periods of 2, 3, 4, 5 — or even 15 years.
So, guys, you get some dark, disapproving, judgmental looks from women your own age when you walk into a restaurant with a beautiful younger woman. And pick any age you want (as long as she's over 18 that is). And these girls adore the attention we older men so lovingly shower on them.
It’s your life; make your own decisions, write your own script; pick your own partner. Make no mistake, coffee-table, mainstream magazines and a ton of websites never tire of diagnosing, psychoanalyzing, and very often bashing, this happy romantic duo. Surely not the younger woman, since she enters into this hook-up willingly. Her exuberance and delight in exploring and experimenting with the world invigorates and vitalizes us.
"Now we have choices." But these relationships aren't always portrayed in a positive light.
Terms like "cougar" (slang for an older woman seeking a younger man) depict the woman as a predator, rather than an empowered, independent and loving person.
Again, many claim that younger guys may be a lot more energetic, sexier, and undoubtedly more youthful.
But the other side of that youthful appeal often spells trouble.
Your average 22 year-old hip and happening guy knows he’s hot, and he’ll often use it like a butterfly and sample as many girls as he can. Not a terrifically abundant trait in many young guys, according to a lot of younger women.
A 2003 study by AARP revealed that 34 percent of all women over 40 in the survey were dating younger men, and 35 percent preferred it to dating older men. Quite frankly, his mother made it so impossible," Winter says of the six-year relationship, which inspired her book.
"Societal attitudes have definitely changed," says Susan Winter, 52, co-author of "Older Women, Younger Men: New Options for Love and Romance" -- and she would know. "But (that kind of discrimination) would not be allowable now." Hollywood in particular has defied the ageism stereotype, with celebrities like Madonna and Demi Moore marrying significantly younger men (a 10- and 15-year age gap, respectively, with director Guy Ritchie and actor Ashton Kutcher), and the public has come to accept it.